A Bathroom of One's Own; A Ticket to Fun & Freedom

A Bathroom of One's Own; A Ticket to Fun & Freedom

REPOST from July 2017

Hey mom,

What if I told you you could get a facial, sip a cocktail, do BIG LAUGHS with your best friends, AND have a dance party EVERY DAMN DAY?  You'd say, "Hell no!  I got kids/housework/bills to pay!"  I know you do mom, I know.   

But there's this room... in your house... that (hopefully) locks... and has great acoustics...  You know it.  That's right, your bathroom.  Your bathroom is made for fun and freedom.  

 Vivian Maier having loads of fun in the bathroom

Vivian Maier having loads of fun in the bathroom

And here's your ticket (to fun and freedom in the bathroom)----

"Do you mind if I take a shower real quick?" 

This is what you ask your partner/bf/gf/in-law/parent/sibling/babysitter when they come to parent/give you a break/take up space.  See, "real quick" won't be super accurate.  And you don't really care if they mind.

See, cause no one can fault you for wanting to wipe the baby grime/life sweats off your mom skin.  Oh and some people shower every day (ha!) so they won't think it's weird, even though you'll know better.

1. QUICK!  Turn on the shower and grab..

A. a beer/cocktail/fizzy bev

B. any and all mom-only products- facial scrubs, body oil, $$ shampoos. *Use them slllooowlly, really absorb that day cream, c'mon, your skin is really dry, you need a couple layers.

 My sister Mags gifted  this set from Aesop  and it's good.

My sister Mags gifted this set from Aesop and it's good.

C.  YOUR PHONE:  here's how you get the laughs and dance parties 

Then...

2. Lock the door.

3. Find a funny podcast and play it.  Try...

A. Call Your Girlfriend.  I listen to this so much I miss the hosts after a few days.  They cover ALL the topics and are hilarious.  (more on them in another post)

 Call Your Girlfriend- "Long Distance Besties" Anne Friedman and Aminatou Sow- have me LOLing all "shower" long.

Call Your Girlfriend- "Long Distance Besties" Anne Friedman and Aminatou Sow- have me LOLing all "shower" long.

B. Women of the Hour (especially Episode 1: Friendship), and 2 Dope Queens (Jessica Williams- haven't listened but heard great things).

4. Blast your favorite R&B playlist!  I made one for you here.   Sing along, mom, you know the words!

 Your bathroom dance party awaits!

Your bathroom dance party awaits!

5. Dance, laugh, exfoliate, floss, try on lipstick, etc.

6.  Ignore bangs on the door, phantom or real babies crying.  Turn up the volume.

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Here's the most fun thing:  You are not obligated to shower!  But you figured that out already.  You ARE obligated, however, to take your time and indulge in whatever the hell makes you feel alive.  And repeat as often as possible.  

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To bring this thing full-circle-serious-cool, check out this video my sister Mag sent me.  It's Fiona Shaw (yes, Three Men and a Little Lady) performing a speech based on a series of lectures Virginia Woolf gave at Cambridge way-back-when on her notion of "A Room of One's Own."  Watch:

Mag lives near the Almeida Theater, in London, which produced this (as a part of their Figures of Speech series).  They hosted a reaction session with a large group of women after the speech and I can't get Fatima's response out of my head.  She says,

"That room is not a geographical location.  That room is finding your liberation to think outside the box."  

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So, maybe it isn't about having the actual room, it's about having the courage to ask the question...  

"Do you mind if I shower real quick?"

Georgia O'Keeffe, her Abiquiu home and studio

Georgia O'Keeffe, her Abiquiu home and studio

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